Vickie Would Have Been 59 Today

My late wife would have been 59 years old today.

I share this with you to remind you, and me, of a couple of important points:

  • Life Is Short
  • You cannot imagine the impact you have on other people

We have talked about life being short before, so I won’t belabor it. I don’t want to be perceived as Mr Gloom and Doom, because I am not really like that. I just want you to learn from my life, just as I want to learn from yours.

But I would like to say a few words about the impact we have on other people.

This past weekend my son, daughter-in-law, and 3 grandkids visited. I can look at them and see the impact Vickie had on their lives. Four of them of would not even exist if not for her. But, beyond that, they have been impacted in countless, wonderful ways by the influence she had on their thinking and their way of being. I look at them and I think of what a tragedy it is that they no longer get to learn from her, to hear her laughter, to bask in her love of them and her love of life and all of creation.

Yet, Vickie would never have realized how much impact she had on them, or even how much impact she had on me. She would not have realized how much she influenced people we met in church or our friends. She was modest and just did not think about that kind of thing. Yet, I have been impacted by her more than words can describe … my life changed as a result of her influence. First from her living and then from her dying.

So I leave you with these questions to ponder:

  • For those special people who have a great impact on your life, are you showing your gratitude as you should?
  • Have you taken time to think about the impact you are having on others, and whether it is the impact you want to have?

Take care.


 

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  • Jeanne in Ohio

    Hi, I ran across your blog while looking up Covey’s Quadrants. And I was touched by your comments on your late wife. I too am turning sixty in a couple of weeks and finding it a milestone birthday when I have blithly passed through others. I just ordered a copy of Nudge from Half.com, recommended by a friend in North Carolina who is 75. Glad to read concise, clear and cogent reflections from another soul who is passing through a similar phase of life. Appreciate your sharing your views with those of us on similar journeys.
    Many do not understand the impact the loss of a spouse or partner has. The depth and profound level of change in many ways we never realized we were interdependant and influenced.
    Good wishes to a fellow traveler.
    Appreciatively
    Jeanne

    • http://www.keenerliving.com/ Bruce Keener

      Thank you for commenting, Jeanne. I am sorry for your loss, too.

      Good wishes to you as well, fell traveler.
      Bruce