Oh for a Good Role Model

It seems to me there is a shortage of good public figure role models, and I’d like to discuss that a bit.

But, before getting into that discussion, I want to applaud a very fine role model: Oprah Winfrey. Yesterday I watched her press conference on the abuse that is alleged to have taken place at her all-girls school in South Africa. As I watched her, I wished that my oldest granddaughter had modeled her own life after Oprah instead of modeling it after Brittney Spears.

In Oprah I saw a person who had not only overcome hardships in her own life, but used those hardships to become the kind of person we could all aspire to be: filled with compassion, eager to use her talents to help others, a clear thinker and communicator, a person of utmost integrity, and on and on.

In my view she is not only a superb role model for girls: she is a role model for adults of both genders.

It seems to me that she is doing a fine job in addressing the horrid situation that developed at her all-girls school, and I wish her the utmost success in bringing any abusers to justice and in ensuring that it never happens again.

Now to the “shortage of good public figure role models.” When I was growing up, I had so many great role models to choose from: my Dad, several of my teachers and coaches, and of course Roy Rogers (and many other Hollywood actors). And just about every professional athlete was an outstanding role model. Many politicians were as well.

But it does not seem to me that children of today have very many role models to choose from. Nor do we, and we adults need role models, too. Maybe the role models are as abundant as ever, but we don’t see it because the press only emphasizes their negative aspects.

Maybe I am just old and cynical, and things have not really changed that much. (A very real possibility … I certainly can be cynical.) But it does seem to me that things have changed, and not for the better, in so many ways (role models included). For example, after Oprah’s press conference the news analysts commented that one in five children are abused. My God! Can you imagine that? It just does not seem to me that this would have been possible forty years ago, or even thirty.

Your thoughts?


 

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  • capo

    I think the role models are still there. I think the problem is that our society as a whole is sinking into a swamp, and we tend to choose role models that better fit our degenerating worldview. Roy Rogers? Bah. Don’t we ridicule those sorts of people these days and instead lift up the Britney Spears, the Snoop Doggs, the Bill Clintons…? Do we emulate people who stand for good and serve others or do we idolize people who are models of expediency and excess? Okay, I’ve been known to be a littl cynical from time to time too…

  • http://www.keenerliving.com/ Bruce

    @capo – it is good to see you back. I have missed you.

    A swamp does seem to be a good analogy. It still boggles my mind that 1 in 5 children are abused. I can’t imagine it was like that when we were growing up.

    It is odd who we “idolize.” Me, for example: my favorite TV character is House, a complete asshole. Presidential Candidate Mike Huckabee, who has written a superb book on character and is a former minister, says his favorite show is The Soprano’s.

    I think you and I are not the only ones who are cynical. It is almost as if all of us have come to doubt the sincerity of someone who is portrayed as a “good guy.” We’ve seen too many “good guys” who turned out being crooked or child abusers. So, we root for the guys who we believe are sincere because they don’t even claim to care about anybody else (House, Soprano’s, etc.).

  • mike moore

    Having read a lot of supposedly accurate stuff over the years it appears that some of our role models of the past may not really have been made of the right stuff. I believe that if today’s news media had existed from the 1930′s forward, there wouldn’t have been very many role models.

    Picture how ESPN would report on Babe Ruth in his heyday with his penchant for partying. Although his actions were mild when compared to the steroid’s of today but when was the last time recently that a drunken fun lover was revered in today’s media?

    How about JFK and his supposed trysts, would Bill O’Reilly allow this Democrat to get off as easy as the reporter’s of the 1960′s did.

    Roy Roger’s….I certainly remember Roy with Bullet, Trigger, Dale, Buttercup, Nellie Belle the Jeep and the rest but I don’t know much about his personal life and that’s the way it was back then. Maybe he was a great guy but if I ask Geraldo Rivera to look into Roy’s past, old Roy may not fare so well.

  • http://www.keenerliving.com/ Bruce

    Unfortunately you are probably right, Mike. JFK was someone I really looked up to and tried to emulate, although it was unpopular to do so in the small Southern town in which I was raised.

    Roy would probably have survived Geraldo and O’Reilly, though … at least I would suspect.

  • http://www.ahamoment.com Mike

    Hi Bruce. Great stuff in here – really glad I came across your blog.

    I was reminded of a story Jefferson sent us, detailing his decision to become a role model for young males. Check it out here:
    ahamoment.com/pg/moments/view/3699

    The site is sponsored by Mutual of Omaha and it’s a collection of “aha moments” including instances where priorities have re-aligned and folks have decided to devote at least a portion of their lives to helping others. THe “role model” stories are some of my favorites.

    Anyways. Thanks again and hope you’re having a great day.

    -Mike
    mike@ahamoment.com

    • http://www.keenerliving.com/ Bruce Keener

      Great Mike. Thanks for sharing the ahamoment site with us! Glad to know of the good work you are doing.